The Days are Numbered; Bishop T. D. Jakes on Forgiveness
By Frances Gonzalez - HSU Alumna
A heart of stone can melt. It is not always through men’s ability, but by God’s spiritual power that heals when forgiveness takes place. The pain is deep at times and forgiving is hard to do. When there are unresolved life situations caused by an offender, it can be even harder. There is a message that Bishop T.D Jakes spreads in his book, “Let It Go, Forgive So That You Can Be Forgiven.” This message is about good that can come out of bad. He touches base on how many people can be blessed if they could let go of the past. Bishop Jakes also shares in his book about kindness and why it is a better choice in relationships. In the bible, the first couple God created were Adam and Eve. The man was created to be the spiritual leader and more dominant, and the woman was to follow. She was also considered to be the weakest. It also says that the man has to love her as God loves the church. Problems arose over time when man became controlling and disobeyed God’s word. How can there be forgiveness if there is controlling anger and abuse towards a woman? A man will hinder his prayers from being answered if he abuses his authority and refuses to honor his wife. God speaks up for the under privileged and warns that the one in power has an obligation to be considerate in how they treat those with whom they have power. It’s not just a test of how you do business of course. The more intimate a relationship the more personal the stake become. Peter warns husbands, who have been charged by him and the Apostle Paul to lend their wives and households to avoid taking their power so far that they lose their sense of compassion and become “inconsiderate to the vulnerability of their spouses. Bishop T.D. Jakes uses Husbands in the same way, treat your wives with consideration as the weakest partners and show them honor of fellow heirs of the grace of life. In this way nothing will hinder your prayers. Bishop Jakes talks in his book about how sometimes men can go on a power trip misunderstanding in reality what the man’s role is and as a husband. Jakes stresses the importance of couples coming together as a team and sharing, and getting into one another’s interests. “If you do not believe in the team, don’t get married, because you have to give up some of the “me” for the “we” of it all.” When people witness your weakness, it gives them power over you. I know that God watches those to whom they have influence and authority to monitor the way we extend the mercy and kindness that we also enjoy. Your deeds will be weighed in the same scale that you treat others.