Is your child a bully ?
WINTER PARK, Fla. —Is your child a bully? Many parents are unaware that their son or daughter is the person making another child’s life miserable.Is your child being bullied? According to StopBullying.gov, an adult is notified in just one of three bullying cases. See nine signs your child may be the victim of bullying.A new focus on anti-bullying issues has come to the attention of Central Florida residents after the tragic suicide of 14-year-old Lamar Hawkins, who committed suicide at Greenwood Lakes Middle School in Lake Mary.As part of our week-long series on bullying, we’re offering tips on how to deal with bullying.”More often than not, parents will say to me, ‘That’s not my child. That’s somebody else’s child. I don’t know why my child acted that way.’ A lot of time parents are surprised,” said therapist Barbara Jordan.Most parents strive to raise kind kids, but what happens when the class bully turns out to be your son or daughter? It’s a realization many parents don’t want to come to.Jordan stresses parent awareness and involvement are key to stopping the dangerous behavior.”Kids usually bully because they don’t feel good about themselves, so it’s usually an inadequacy inside of them,” said Jordan.At Nemours Children’s Health System, licensed clinical social worker Amanda Montgomery works with families struggling through bullying.”If it’s a child who frequently does not accept blame for their own actions, is always blaming somebody else, ‘Oh, this person’s picking on me, that person’s picking on me.’ That might be a sign,” she said.She says to watch what kids bring home from school.”When children come home with things they didn’t leave the house with, maybe extra money or new belongings, things that you know as a parent you did not get for your child,” she said.And watch who they hang out with.”If they’re getting into trouble, or you’re noticing that the friends that they’re hanging around with are those kids who are getting into trouble or might be labeled as bullies,” she said.What about how they learn bullying? What might make a child think their actions are OK?As tough as it is to hear, the roots of a child’s bad behavior may be planted at home.”If it is OK at home to be teasing or putting down or to talk negatively about people, children may take what they’re exposed to at home and try it out in environments where they feel comfortable,” said Montgomery.So, what can parents do?Our experts agree: a good, old-fashioned conversation, and some self-awareness on the part of parents are needed.”Being a positive role model. If you notice that you kind of slip into those angry and defeated tones, recognize that your children are watching that too, and they think it’s acceptable because you’re doing it. So being able to talk positively, respectfully,” said Montgomery.And remember, it’s never too late for a bully to changeRead more: http://www.wesh.com/news/thursday-at-6-are-you-raising-a-bully/28242636#ixzz3EQTGNxUO