ENDURING FAMILY MATTERS OF THE HEART

ENDURING FAMILY MATTERS OF THE HEART

By Frances Gonzalez-Boyd

 

 

 

It is a question that comes from the heart. Is it just me who feels this way when bonding in a relationship that is very deep and emotional? Why do so many individuals today take that emotional bonding like it just never happened? You look back in life with all the cherished good memories, yet missing family has become a part of life, that part of life that I cannot get used to. Then separating from an individual or person suddenly becomes a change. That change that means time is of the essence, and soon adapting and missing loved ones will be the two words that will be hard to digest in the future. {{more}} Adjusting to aging is not a lot of fun. Maybe that is part of the reason that I feel as if family members have their own life, and they are happy. Yes, that is what it is all about. Many of us, like myself, have enjoyed the time raising our children and being there for them so they could have a wonderful life. We entertained ourselves attending school concerts and PTA Meetings. Functions were very important, so were the late night movies that came on television, and what family time I could put in as a single parent, made me happy to be part of the laughing. on the weekends, at times, my children were away at church overnight retreats, or spending a night at friends. I raised my children to enjoy life and friends. These children who have been around for us to love on suddenly grow up. I will use my granddaughter as an example, who has grown into a young and intelligent young lady. She approaches me at times, and says, “I love you, Grandma,” and also, “I miss you when you leave.” That feeling is mutual. Quality time has been important to me when we have been together. Every moment we have had with each other, we have made memories. Just the other day, she was excited to see the photos I had of her from her baby stage to now. My four year old granddaughter is very perceptive, and very mature. I have enjoyed reading her books and also the artwork we have completed together. Encouraging her and praising her for beautiful artistic work is what Grandma enjoys doing. She uses the word “awesome”, and that is the word I use to describe her. She is unique, and has a wonderful personality. I will surely miss her when the sudden change happens. Photos are good to have, and I have taken lots of my granddaughter, who poses like a model. Matters of the heart seem to stay deep down. Family means a lot to me. The question still is heavy on my mind. Where have some of the hearts gone when it comes to some individuals. Many just take bonding for granted and do not seem to see what real love is. To them, it is like, one day here, and then another day gone. Tomorrow will be another day, and what matters to some people is just getting the most of the material things the world has to offer. Love and matters of the heart, they should not be taken for granted. Memories are to be remembered. Some day young ones even grow up to remember their missing loved ones. Sudden change is not always easy and adaptable when it comes to matters of the heart, especially when it comes to loved ones who move away or leave this world for a better life. The one where there is no worry about absence of loved ones. God will fulfill that void in heaven, and Jesus is in the healing business.