Destroying The Shame
By Henry Nelson | August 1, 2009
Romans 1:16“I am not ashamed of the gospel, because it is the power of God for the salvation of everyone who believes first for the Jew, then for the Gentile. For in the gospel righteousness from God is revealed, a righteousness that is by faith from first to last, as it is written: “The righteous will live by faith.”The dictionary defines “shame as a person or thing that brings disgrace; a feeling of distress caused by consciousness of guilt. The Pastoral Dictionary defines “shame” as a feeling which follows when a person realizes that there has been a failure to live up to ideal expectation. Sigmund Freud sees shame as the visibility of genitals. Alfred Adler saw shame as linked to any sense of inferiority. No-one can make you feel inferior without your consent. Erik Erikson, saw shame as an identity crisis. He related it to the stage of toilet training, where there is conflict between autonomy versus shame and doubt. Shame is a powerful tool to help a person change his or her ways for the better. Shame can be used therapeutically In the Bible shame indicates a crushing hurt, which may be physical but is more likely to involve destruction of pride and confidence. The prophets often relate shame as national defeat. Shame can be a condition of disgrace and public distress.Many people are so ashamed of the church today; they have removed themselves from the body of Christ. They have surrendered their will to pray, they will tell you I am going to watch and see what will happen. They will tell you it does not make sense any more to do anything in the church or for the church. People are not interested in destroying the shame because they have become detached spectators. Many people have simply lost the desire to make a meaningful contribution to the kingdom of God. Some people have even given up their salvation and do not even know it, but are ashamed to admit. Amen!Today we are living in a shameless and guiltless culture, where there is nothing absolutely right or nothing absolutely wrong as long as you can tolerate it. Our culture believes that pleasure is more important than purity. We have substitute Biblical righteousness for political correctness. What God called abomination, we call it alternative lifestyles. What we call common law marriage, God calls it fornication. What we call an affair, God calls it adultery or fornication. What God blesses, we call it curse and what is cursed we call it blessed, God bless the marriage of the male and the female we curse it, and bless the marriage of the male and male or the female and female. Amen!The glory of God will not fall until the spirit of shame has been removed. If you want to remove the spirit of shame you cannot take God out of the picture. You cannot substitute another form of God for the true and living God of the Bible. If you want the glory of God you must break the spirit of shame from your life, from your family, from your church and from the things you do and say. When the shame is destroyed you will be the head and not the tail, a table will be presented before you in the presence of your enemies. When shame is destroyed you will live in Jerusalem physically, mentally, socially, psychologically, and financially. When this happens my friends you will exchange the garment of shame for the garment of praise. Amen!There are people reading this message that are lame in both feet and they are afraid to admit it. They are lame to things that will get them moving, get them growing like prayer and fasting, like reading the word of God; like loving one another. Many people today are lame from when they were a baby Christian ten even twenty years ago. They have covered their lameness with a band-aid, but still they have not yet manage to destroy the shame. They are still into making excuses about why things are not different in their lives. They have become one with the disease of lameness until; they have developed a psychological dependency. The psychology of moral behavior says: The moral behavior of people may be shaped by their own moral character which in itself is affected by their genetic makeup. It may be shaped by social context in which the people’s behavior is set and the nature of their relationships with significant people in their lives. The social psychologist says a person’s experience and behavior is strongly influenced by other people. What these psychologists are saying once person is set in his or her own way it is difficult to change. They are telling us that we are creatures of habits and sometime we can never get rid of those habits. Amen! How do we destroy the shame with the word of God? 1st Corinthians 10:4-6 says, “For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds?, casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalted itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ; and having in a readiness to punish all disobedience, when your obedience is fulfilled.” Amen!How do you destroy the shame by knowing the reality of God’s word? As He is, so are we in this world He was a winner and more than conqueror and so are we. He endured the cross despite the shame so we can do it. Glory to God! He reigns as king over the power of death and the curse and we are reigning with Him as kings; this is the revelation many Christians have not yet receive Christ lives in us. “Isaiah 10:27 says, “And it shall come to pass in that day, that his burden shall be taken away from off thy shoulder, and his yoke from off thy neck, and the yoke shall be destroyed because of the anointing.” Amen!The application in this is that in most instances the yoke creates a wound in the fat flesh as it were in the oxen by pressure, but here the opposite will occurs because of the energy manifesting itself in the anointing. The fatness of the neck will lead to the destruction of the yoke. Some people have predicted that you will never turn out to be anything, but the opposite occurs. Our necks are getting fat because of the anointing and the burden of shame has been removed from off our shoulders. Amen!Finally, to destroy the shame it will take a therapeutic process which by accepting personal responsibility, by creating therapeutic relationships to stimulate positive change in each other’s through honesty, integrity, and the courage to make a difference; by encouraging one another in love. The core of this therapeutic relationship is respect for each others, with the confidence that you all can make a difference together. You must decide the future direction of your church and your life. You must realize that you do not have to be victims of your past experiences you can redesign your future. You can free yourselves of traditional shackles and accept the responsibilities that determine our future. The reason why you should destroy the shame is because some of you need help and God is looking for you and me to make the difference. There is no room for excuses, because God is looking for someone to destroy the shame. Isaiah 6-8 says, “Then I heard the voice of the Lord saying, “Whom shall I send? And who will go for us? And I said, “Here am I send me!” He said, “Go and tell this people: ” ‘Be ever hearing, but never understanding; Keep on seeing, but never perceiving.’ Make the heart of this people calloused; make their ears dull and close their eyes. Otherwise they might see with their eyes, hear with their ears, understand with their hearts, and turn and be healed.” AmenMy faith tells me to believe in the power of existential reality, that man has a role to play in cooperation with God for his development and success. Now you know why you have to destroy the shame. Amen!